Practice
To become a genius flirt, don't save your skills only for a guy you likepractice on other men you meet so you can perfect your game.
Get touchy
Mirror him
If you've ever watched lovedup couples in deep conversation, you'll notice that they're pretty much copying each otherthey'll shift their positions to match the other's; when one picks up a glass, the other will do the same; and their breathing patterns will be similar. Copying someone's movements is a short-cut to creating the same intimacy real couples sharejust remember to mimic sparingly so it's not obvious.
Find a name
Giving someone a personal nickname creates intimacy. With a new guy, find something positive about hima sense of humour, musclesand give him a nickname for that. Use it playfully through your convo.
Perfect spaces
Casually touching a guy's arm or knee while laughing at his joke is a great flirting techniqueit subconsciously tells him you're interested, and makes him feel more connected to you. But, warn experts, the move can sometimes backfire, so it's smart to test a man's personal space first. "The bubble of air 18 inches around someone's body is their intimate space: a no-go zone when you first meet someone, says Judy Dutton, author of How The Science Of Sex Can Make You A Better Lover. "To see if someone's up for you breaking through this barrier, find an excuse to step briefly into this zone, say, by allowing someone behind you to pass, or to grab an appetizer off a wandering traythen step back out again. If this person is drawn to you, he will respond by stepping in closer after you've backed off, she says.
The bumping trick
'Accidentally' bump into a man when you're waiting for drinks at the bar. It's an instant convo starter (hey, you gotta say 'sorry'), and the physical contact from your little collision makes the exchange more intimate.
Wear a convo starter
Standing out with help from a great outfit is one thing; getting noticed because of something extraordinary is even better. A flirt toola cool hat, clever T-shirt, or unusual accessory makes others curious, and gives them a reason to chat with you.
Work the love triangle
Allow your gaze to drink in what you see. According to experts, when talking to people, our eyes follow a 'triangle'. With acquaintances, we make a small triangle by moving our eyes from eye to eye, dipping them as we move across the bridge of the nose. When we look at the faces of friends, our eyes also include the nose and the mouth. But if we're attracted to a person, the triangle gets wider at the bottom as we incorporate their body into our gaze. Once you get the hang of the 'love triangle', let your gaze linger on his lips for a little longer. This technique sends him a subconscious message that you're wondering what it would be like to kiss him.
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